Adult+Interactions

Here is the information I have on adult interactions:

Hey guys it's Nicole her is my info: Parents

I. Pressure A. Academics 1. Parents want you to do well in school a. Daily pressure to get homework done b. Tests and projects have more pressure i They want you to get high grades all the time ii Online grades are constantly checked for updates 2. Parents want you to go to a good high school a. Entrance tests are stressed b. Interviews B. Sports and Activities 1. Parents want you to be involved a. They complain it’s too time consuming iii They always have to drive you iv As you progress events get farther away v It becomes a conflict with the academic pressure 2. Pressure to perform well a. Just being involved becomes not good enough b. Many kids end up focusing on only one sport or activity vi So they can compete at the highest level possible C. Social Life 1. Parents want you to have one a. But not that much b. They want to control it 2. If you don’t go to dances or parties they wonder why a. They worry that something’s wrong ** Coaches **

**I. **** Pressure ** · We have pressure to meet the expectations of our coaches and instructors. · Sometimes parents or our extra program teachers do not understand the pressure we are under as a team and as a person. o We have school o We do not want to embarrass ourselves in front of our friends or family o And we want to do the best we can · When we have had a coach for a long time we are able to get to known them o Then they are able to learn about us and help us where we need to be helped § They bring out special gifts inside of us   § If they take time to help we will most likely end up being inspired by them and want to be like them

** Church Views ** · Jesus wants us to seek help from him when we can that is like us going to our coaches for help · Jesus wants us to do our best just as our coaches do   · Jesus us wants to be happy with our ability

** Media Portray ** · On television coaches are always giving their team players a hard time. · Coaches always want the championships but do not understand the pressure teens get under to impress their coach · Teens always want to be the best at something and they want their coaches to pay attention to them so as teens we put pressure on ourselves to be noticed as players

** Facts and Statistics ** · When under loads of pressure teens use steroids to enhance their playing ability o Ability to be aggressive o [] o 2006 – 8th Graders steroid use was 1.6 in lifetime

** Advice and Recommendations ** · Believe in your playing ability · Believe in yourself

**II. **** Negative Effects of Adult Relationships **

A. What to do when we feel awkward around your coach 1. Tell an adult (mom, dad, guardian, ect.) 2. They touch you in weird places or start acting strange when your near them – tell an adult immediately

** Church Views ** · No one should do that

** Media Portrayal ** · On television people always call the police or tell someone because it’s a big deal

** Facts and Statistics ** o It’s happened before

** Advice and Recommendations ** o Be aware of your surroundings o Tell someone when something happens its serious and should be treated as such

Instructors Outline Jenna's Information I. As advisor A. General Information 1. You know your coach is a good role model and advisor if he or she shows you how to win, not to cheat, or can support the players and knows their limits, builds up character and good morals as well as skills. 2. You can usually trust a coach like this, and know that they will give you good advice. a. Teenagers have a unique relationship with their instructors, whether it is for dance, sports, art, music, martial arts, and more. b. Complete trust is necessary so everyone can be successful. c. Instructors have a special bond with teens because they are always giving them advice in whatever activity they are involved in, so the teen has no problem receiving advice from the coach in other aspects of life. i The teen must trust that the instructor is giving good advice on how to improve or strengthen weaknesses. ii The coach must trust the teen to do the best to his or her ability and do what the coaches asks. iii This bond of trust quickly allows the instructor and teen to develop a relationship. iv The teen may rebel against the parents because that’s how teens are, and teachers also give advice, but in subjects the teen isn’t interested in, so they wouldn’t necessarily go to them. v But because the coach gives advice in subjects the teen is interested in, they are a good resource for the teen.

B. Church Views 1. If this relationship is healthy, the Church is all for it 2. As soon as one of the people get uncomfortable, the Church would advise you to stop the relationship to avoid something bad 3. As long as parents are obeyed, I don’t see why there would be any issues with this.

C. Media Portrayal 1. often only hear about the bad coaches did like setting bad example, or yelling at a kid, or sabotaging the other team

2. movies often show good coaching, like Remember the Titans, where he teaches the boys about toleration, teamwork, and is a great role model

3. Those kids could go to the coach for advice I would think

D. Facts/Statistics

E. Advice and recommendations (communication) 1. Use the same respect and manners you would when talking to a parent or teacher 2. Make sure you feel the coach is open to give advice 3. Ask advice about really personal things when the relationship is more than a little more in depth than a usual teen-coach relationship.

F. For more information (resources for learning more)

When you’re close to your coach you can go to them for advice or can relate to them.

Teens need to have at least one other role model or advisor they can go to other than their parents. For many girls this is their instructor, whether it is for sports, art, dance, or music.

Start with instructor examples.

Watch the lines that can’t be crossed Use anecdotes/ examples

Important that adult makes you feel uncomfortable and when that lines crossed and how to deal with that.

Communication

Coaches!! Jenna

As Advisor:

· It is important that coaches take care of their children · They should not use abusive language of actions · This would allow the kids to trust them · Sometimes the kids grow a close relationship with their coaches · Coaches can be a great source of advice for teenagers

Each topic must cover the following:
 * Church views
 * media portrayal
 * facts/statistics
 * advice and recommendations
 * For more information (resources for learning more

 [] [] [] Emily’s Information and Websites: 1. [] 2. Talk to parents 3. [] 4. [] (for Shea)