Coach+Relationships

Jenna's Information Instructors Outline I. As advisor A. General Information  1. You know your coach is a good role model and advisor if he or she shows you how to win, not to cheat, or can support the players and knows their limits, builds up character and good morals as well as skills.  2. You can usually trust a coach like this, and know that they will give you good advice. a. Teenagers have a unique relationship with their instructors, whether it is for dance, sports, art, music, martial arts, and more. b. Complete trust is necessary so everyone can be successful. c. Instructors have a special bond with teens because they are always giving them advice in whatever activity they are involved in, so the teen has no problem receiving advice from the coach in other aspects of life. i The teen must trust that the instructor is giving good advice on how to improve or strengthen weaknesses. ii The coach must trust the teen to do the best to his or her ability and do what the coaches asks. iii This bond of trust quickly allows the instructor and teen to develop a relationship. iv The teen may rebel against the parents because that’s how teens are, and teachers also give advice, but in subjects the teen isn’t interested in, so they wouldn’t necessarily go to them. v But because the coach gives advice in subjects the teen is interested in, they are a good resource for the teen. B. Church Views  1. If this relationship is healthy, the Church is all for it    2. As soon as one of the people get uncomfortable, the Church would advise you to stop the relationship to avoid something bad  3. As long as parents are obeyed, I don’t see why there would be any issues with this.  4. C. Media Portrayal 1. often only hear about the bad coaches did like setting bad example, or yelling at a kid, or sabotaging the other team 2. movies often show good coaching, like Remember the Titans, where he teaches the boys about toleration, teamwork, and is a great role model 3. Those kids could go to the coach for advice I would think D. Facts/Statistics E. Advice and recommendations (communication)  1. Use the same respect and manners you would when talking to a parent or teacher  2. Make sure you feel the coach is open to give advice  3. Ask advice about really personal things when the relationship is more than a little more in depth than a usual teen-coach relationship. F. For more information (resources for learning more) II. Topic A. Sub-topic  1. Details  2. Details  a. More Details <span style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l3 level4 lfo2; text-indent: -0.25in;"> b. More Details <span style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l3 level5 lfo2; text-indent: -0.25in;"> vi Further explanation <span style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l3 level5 lfo2; text-indent: -0.25in;"> vii Further explanation B. Sub-topic When you’re close to your coach you can go to them for advice or can relate to them. Teens need to have at least one other role model or advisor they can go to other than their parents. For many girls this is their instructor, whether it is for sports, art, dance, or music. Start with instructor examples. Watch the lines that can’t be crossed Use anecdotes/ examples Important that adult makes you feel uncomfortable and when that lines crossed and how to deal with that. Communication Coaches!! Jenna As Advisor: · It is important that coaches take care of their children · They should not use abusive language of actions · This would allow the kids to trust them · Sometimes the kids grow a close relationship with their coaches · Coaches can be a great source of advice for teenagers Each topic must cover the following:
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 * <span style="color: black; margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list .5in;"> For more information (resources for learning more